by Eleanor Bell | Jul 26, 2023 | Couples/Relationships, Emotional Well Being, Internal Family Systems
“You scared me!” “I got scared!” “A part of me got scared…” This progression happened in my head a couple of days ago, in the course of about five minutes. I was riding in the passenger seat while my husband drove. Something happened that sent a shot of adrenaline...
by Eleanor Bell | May 17, 2023 | Behavior, Emotional Well Being, Learning
Healthy boundaries – they are often spoken of as important, but what does that actually mean? As a child, I did not learn what a boundary is, let alone how to set one. This was all implicitly communicated, rarely explicit. Anger was generally not ok to express,...
by Eleanor Bell | May 10, 2023 | Couples/Relationships, Emotional Well Being, Internal Family Systems
This is a quote from a podcast that explored the intersection of attachment, the nervous system, and the body, and was so accessible. The host, Tammy Sollenberger of The One Inside podcast, spoke with Anna Vincentz, IFS therapist about parenting and...
by Eleanor Bell | May 2, 2023 | Behavior, Internal Family Systems
How do you know what action to take? Most of us don’t really think much about it – we just act. However, the same behavior toward others can have very different energy, depending on the internal source. Let’s say you have a friend who invites you to join them at...
by Eleanor Bell | Apr 6, 2023 | Emotional Well Being, Internal Family Systems
My inner critic has been one of my hardest working protectors, and I am grateful for their efforts. Perhaps that sentence makes you pause. There has been so much written about inner critics and how to tame them, control them, change them – the predominant frame...
