Reflections
What is the purpose of purpose?
I have always been focused on purpose – the purpose of a meeting, a project, a team activity, an organization, a role, a relationship, a person. Over the years I have found that asking the question, “What is the purpose of this thing that I am engaged with?” has been...
You can’t talk yourself into self-confidence
Many people have a part inside of them that feels like they don’t belong where they are – that they are not qualified, or good enough, or whatever, and worries that they will be discovered, found out, and rejected. This part can sap confidence and take up energy...
Wants and Needs
Do you know what you want? Do you know what you need? And do you know the difference? Over the course of my life, I have mostly not known what I wanted. Especially regarding everyday things, like food, drink, movement, clothes, sleep. When confronted with a choice...
Meaning of success
How do you define success? Has it been given to you, or does it come from within? This is the time of year when we tend to reflect on our journey and accomplishments, take stock of where we are, and set intentions for the coming year. For me, this has been a...
Christmas and my parts
I have a lot of different feelings and voices that arise during this month – specifically in the weeks leading up to Christmas. They are noisy, and confusing because often they pull me in different directions. I have a hard time with the gift giving aspect of the...
Pay attention to integration!
If you are going to bother with the effort of making a change, be sure to tend to integration – or don’t bother. This is true for both organizational as well as individual changes. I have seen so many re-orgs completely fail to deliver on the intended benefit,...
Sometimes my planning tips over into anxiety
I love to plan. Thinking about what would be fun to do, if it is a vacation, or what would be useful for a group, if I am facilitating. Putting myself into the future. Imagining the possibilities, doing research, making decisions on behalf of my future self or...
Self Leadership – what it is and why it matters
If you search the internet for self leadership, the first several pages of results are links focused on how to motivate yourself to reach your goals. This kind of self-leadership originated from organizational management literature and focuses on self-control and...
The source of your purpose
Where do you find your purpose? Is it internal or external? Early in my career, I rarely thought about my purpose – I just followed the path in front of me. That is what many of us do, I think. So at that time, my purpose was taken from my external environment....
The paradox of having an agenda for change
I am in the business of helping people change. People come to me wanting something different in their lives. And I have seen many of my clients make significant shifts that led to greater ease, happiness, and flow. I honor the part of them that sought help, that got...